At SensationALL, co-regulation is at the very core of what we do. By modelling calm and regulated behaviour, children feel safe and can settle more easily.

What is it?

Co-regulation means using ourselves as the primary tool for regulation: our breath, body language, tone of voice, and rhythm help to shape a child’s nervous system. A dysregulated adult cannot regulate a dysregulated child so maintaining a calm presence provides the foundation for all the techniques we use here at SensationALL.

Why it matters:

Neurologically, children borrow regulation from adults before they can self-regulate. By reading our state, children can pick up on feelings of safety through our tone of voice, facial expression, and posture.

This means that when we slow down, they slow down; when we brighten and become more animated, they become more alert!

Why it works:

• Co-regulation has to come before self-regulation. Children borrow our from nervous system. When we are grounded, their bodies detect safety and begin to settle.
• Feelings of safety. Warm eye contact at the child’s level, soft facial muscles, and a friendly voice signal “safe” to the brain, which eases the flight or fight response.
• Emotional mirroring. As humans we unconsciously copy postures, facial expressions, and rhythms. If an adult has a slow, steady rhythm a child will mirror this (heart rate, breath, movement).
• Sensory variation:
  o Calming: using deep pressure techniques and predictable rhythm can help calm dysregulation.
  o Alerting: using a bright and friendly voice, faster tempo and an upright posture can help children feel more alert
• Naming sensations. We can use our words to bring awareness to sensations: “Your hands look tight; let’s soften them together”. This builds body awareness and helps young people understand they have a choice about how to feel.
• Building tolerance. Our calm presence widens a child’s capacity to feel big feelings without tipping over into shutdown or chaos.

What can we do as adults?

As adults, we can support children when they are dysregulated by thinking about our body, voice and actions.

Body

• Grounded stance (feet hip-width, weight through heels), relaxed shoulders, open
  hands.
• Get low (kneel/sit) to reduce visual threat and power distance.
• Breathe visibly: in through nose, longer out-breath (count 4 in / 6 out).
• Proximity: offer presence at an angle (not face-on). Always gain consent for touch.
• Predictable movement: slow, smooth, minimal sudden gestures

Voice

• Calming: low volume, lower pitch, slower pace, warm prosody, short phrases, longer
  pauses.
• Alerting: brighter tone, slightly increased pace, clear rhythm, upbeat prosody.
• Language: validate + guide (“You’re frustrated. I’m here. Let’s press hands
  together… now two slow breaths.”)

Actions

• Model self-regulation out loud (“I’m slowing my breath… shoulders down… now I
  can think.”)
• Offer regulating choices (calm or alert) matched to need.
• Shape the environment: reduce visual/auditory load for calming; add rhythm/novelty for alerting.

Five steps to co-regulation!

Next time you want to help a child to regulate their behaviour, try using our 5-step system:

Ground (you and child): feet down • long exhale • soften jaw • slow hands
Connect: name + validate their feelings • be at their level • warm face/eyes
Guide: offer two choices (calm vs alert)
Practice: regulate together (you lead with rhythm)
Close: name the shift • return to task.

Co-regulation is a powerful tool. By role modelling a calm state we can help others feel calm and grounded too.

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At SensationALL we frequently use vibration as a sensory regulation tool to support alert levels, self-regulation, and reconnecting with the body.

What is it?

Vibration involves using objects that produce rhythmic buzzing or shaking sensations on the body, such as vibrating cushions, handheld massagers, toothbrushes, or simple activities like humming against a surface.

Why it matters:

Vibration stimulates both the tactile and proprioceptive systems. Depending on individual needs, it can boost alertness—helping to “wake up” the body and mind—or soothe and regulate by bringing focus back into the body and releasing tension. It’s especially beneficial for children who struggle with body awareness, emotional regulation, or focus.

Vibration is strong, predictable, and easy to control. This input can calm an overwhelmed system, energise a low-energy body, or enhance awareness of limb positioning.

One way we incorporate vibration is through vibration plate equipment, which sends vibrations to the body, stimulating muscles and improving lymphatic flow, reducing blood pressure, and increasing circulation—factors that enhance focus, mood, and concentration.

Here are some examples of vibration tools useful in therapy and play during daily routines:

• Whole-body vibration plates: children can stand, sit with feet on, or place hands on the plate—great for grounding and regulation.
• Handheld vibration massagers: gentle, soft-head devices suitable for quick spot treatments on hands, shoulders, or calves (avoid heavy-duty “massage guns” for children).
• Vibrating cushions or pillows: children can sit or lean against them, ideal for calm-down areas or classroom seating.
• Vibrating toys: stuffed animals, Fidgets, or balls that vibrate—engaging and fun for younger children.
• Vibrating toothbrushes: useful for oral-motor stimulation, feeding prep, and desensitisation for oral sensitivities.
• Vibrating pens or writing tools: aid hand awareness before handwriting and make fine motor tasks more fun.
• DIY options include small battery-operated handheld fans (without blades) or clip-on vibrating pet brushes, which are soft and safe.

Safe use of vibration is crucial—our Golden Rules include:

1. Always offer Choice and Control!
2. Use short bursts (10-30 seconds), then follow with movement or play.
3. Observe their response—calmer? More alert? Overstimulated? Adjust accordingly.

Understanding personal feelings about vibration helps select the most beneficial type:

Low energy

• slightly stronger vibrations in short bursts, targeting large body areas first, then hands for fine motor skills
• paired with quick heavy work and focus tasks.

Over-responsive/anxious

• very gentle, predictable vibrations, starting with hands/feet, then the torso; avoid face/abdomen until trust is established
•  incorporate slow breathing, deep pressure squeezes, and quiet spaces, gradually progressing to play.

Mixed emotions

• offer a choice menu with questions like “which spot?”, “how strong?”, “how long?”
• alternate between heavy work and calming breaths.

Vibration helps the brain “notice the body” more clearly, helping to regulate the senses and bring a sense of calm, or energy, to your life!

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