Understanding your senses – hearing

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Hearing isn’t just about our ears. It’s about how our brain makes sense of sound, voices, music, background noise, sudden bangs, or the quiet hum of everyday life.

For some people, sound feels calming and grounding. For others, it can feel confusing, distracting, or overwhelming. This guide gives you an easy way to understand what you, or your child, might be experiencing, and how to find calm, connection, and comfort at home.

How does auditory processing works?

Auditory processing is the brain’s ability to:

  • notice sound
  • filter out background noise
  • understand speech
  • tell where sound is coming from
  • use rhythm and tone
  • stay regulated in noisy spaces

When this system works smoothly, people feel settled, focused, and ready to learn or play. When it struggles, their behaviours will often show this.

Why does sound affect our emotions?

When we hear sound, it goes straight to the part of the brain that decides “I’m safe” or “I’m not safe.”

For sensitive nervous systems, this can mean:

  • small sounds can feel huge
  • sudden noise can trigger fear
  • silence feels calming

or:

  • loud, rhythmic sound can feel grounding
  • music helps regulate emotion
  • predictable sound feels safe

Over-responsive or under-responsive?

There are two common ways in which people can respond to sound: over-responsive and under-responsive. They can be seen in children, teens and adults.

Over-responsive

Over-responsive is when sound can feel too much. This happens in children, teens and adults. You might notice:

  • Hands over ears
  • Avoids noisy places
  • Gets upset with sudden sounds
  • Startles easily
  • Prefers quiet and calm
  • Meltdowns or anxiety which is triggered by noise

How to support someone who is over-responsive:

  • Noise-reducing headphones
  • Reduce background noise
  • Warn them before any loud sounds
  • Speak slowly with fewer words
  • Create a quiet corner at home
  • Use soft rhythmic music

Under-responsive

Under-responsive is when sound does not register strongly enough.

  • Doesn’t respond to their name right away
  • Needs instructions to be repeated
  • Turns music up loud
  • Seeks noise (hums, taps, bangs)
  • Enjoys busy, loud environments
  • Struggles to focus without sound

How to support someone who is under-responsive:

  • Use songs and rhythms for routines
  • Add movement and sound together (clap, drum, stomp)
  • Clear, short instructions
  • Listening games
  • Musical toys or instruments
  • Use a sound to cue to get attention

Supporting the auditory system isn’t about forcing tolerance. It’s about helping the nervous system feel safe, steady, and understood!

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Meet our team!

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Get to know the team at SensationALL!

Chloe Legge, Service Team Lead

What’s your role at SensationALL and what does it involve?
My role as Service Team Lead bridges service demand, design, and delivery with operations and HR. I collaborate with the operations team, session coordinators, and Clinical Team Lead to schedule and deliver services, recruit and allocate staff, lead our team of practitioners and youth workers, manage appraisals and training needs, as well as have fun in some sessions too!

What do you like most about SensationALL?
The shared passion within the team for supporting neurodivergent individuals, their families, carers, and the wider community. The genuine, authentic care shown by the team drives our work and ensures that a needs-led, person-centred approach remains at the heart of everything we do. I feel proud to work for a charity that retains such a strong sense of purpose and fosters an environment built on inclusion, understanding, and lived experience.

How long have you been at SensationALL?
I have been at SensationALL for over 3 years now, starting in a Youth Worker position in 2022, and becoming Service Team Lead in 2023. 

What’s your favourite sensory activity?
My favourite sensory activities are movement-based. I especially enjoy using the balance boards and vibration plates, as well as active games in the soft play room, particularly hide and seek or grounders. I also love making slime!

A fun fact about yourself!
I love being outdoors, and when I’m not playing hide and seek or making slime at SensationALL, you’ll usually find me in the mountains or tucked away in a remote coffee shop in some distant corner of Scotland. 

Rebekah Moorhouse, Clinical Team Lead

What’s your role at SensationALL and what does it involve?
I’m the Clinical Team Lead. My role involves our training delivery and offerings and supporting with the clinical guidance for our team, ensuring high-quality, child-centred practice, and working closely with families to make sure each child’s sensory needs are truly understood and supported. I also help shape how we grow and develop as a service while keeping care, connection, and curiosity at the heart of everything we do.

What do you like most about SensationALL / what does SensationALL mean to you?
What I love most about SensationALL is the deep respect for every child and adult as an individual. SensationALL means safety, understanding, and possibility to me. It’s a place where differences are welcomed, nervous systems are honoured, and children are supported to thrive in ways that feel right for them.

How long have you been at SensationALL?
I’ve been part of SensationALL for 8 years.

What’s your favourite sensory activity?
My favourite sensory activity is anything involving deep pressure or heavy work. It’s grounding, regulating, and such a powerful way to help children feel safe and settled in their bodies.

A fun fact about yourself!
I love creating calm, cosy spaces and I’m always thinking about how environments can feel more regulating, nurturing, and welcoming. I’m also obsessed with Neuroscience which helps us understand neurodivergent nervous systems! 

Regulate with floor time

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Do you ever feel that you do your best thinking or relaxing while sitting on the floor? Maybe your child plays best when they are lying on the floor. Well there’s a good reason for it and we explore using the floor as a regulation tool in this blog.

For many neurodivergent people, the floor is a powerful regulation tool. Floor time isn’t about getting in the way, making a mess or being lazy… it is about the nervous system feeling safe, grounded and supported.

Why regulation starts in the body

Before you can focus, listen, learn, or communicate your nervous system needs to feel settled.

Neurodivergent nervous systems often process sensory information differently.

Sitting upright on a chair, staying still, or holding a particular posture can take a huge amount of effort, leaving less energy for learning or emotional regulation.

The science behind floor time

There is a scientific basis to support the use of floor time:

1. Proprioception: Feeling grounded and secure

Proprioception is the sense that tells us where our body is in space. When you sit or lie on the floor, you receive:

  • Firm contact through the legs, hips, and spine
  • Gentle pressure through muscles and joints
  • Clear feedback about where your body is
  • Input that helps the brain feel safe and organised.

The floor gives the body more information, more sensory feedback, and more support, which helps the brain relax.

So ultimately, being on the floor can reduce anxiety, support emotional regulation, and make it easier to concentrate.

2. Vestibular input: Balance without overwhelm

The vestibular system helps with balance, movement, and alertness. Floor positions naturally allow:

  • Shifting weight
  • Rocking gently
  • Changing positions easily
  • Crossing the midline

The movement helps you stay regulated without becoming over-stimulated, supporting focus without tipping into restlessness.

3. Tactile input: Predictable, calming touch

Putting it simply, the floor is solid. It provides steady and predicable touch.

So unlike light or unexpected touch, which can feel overwhelming for some people, contact with the floor is consistently reliable which can be calming.

You can change your body position to respond to the needs of your nervous system by alternating between the floor and seats in line with your mood.

Using the floor as a grounding tool

For many, the floor acts like an anchor, helping you stay connected to your body and the moment.

Being close to the ground can:

  • Slow down breathing
  • Reduce emotional overwhelm
  • Improve body awareness
  • Support people who dissociate or shut down
  • Help people feel present and calm

Plus, anything can be done on the floor! For both adults and children the floor can be multi-functional – learning doesn’t have to stop because you are on the floor.

  • Read or write lying on your tummy
  • Build, sort, and play sitting on a rug
  • Talk through feelings leaning on cushions
  • Do homework while sprawled out comfortably
  • Do some stretches or yoga on a mat

The power of language

Avoid using negative language when someone is using the floor. Comments like “Sit properly” or “Get up off the floor” can be upsetting and lead to increased dysregulation.

Instead try supportive phrases like:

  • “Would the floor feel better?”
  • “Let’s take this down to the ground.”
  • “What does your body need right now?”

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Breathing Games

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Breathing Games are a playful, engaging way to help people learn self-regulation through mindful breathing.

Deep, slow breathing stimulates the vagus nerve, one of the main connections between brain and body, which helps to shift the body from “fight/flight” into a calmer “rest/digest” state. It doesn’t matter what the breath is – it’s about breathing with purpose!

What are breathing games?

Breathing Games use imagination, movement, and fun to make breathing accessible and enjoyable. Instead of asking a child to “take a deep breath” (which can feel a bit abstract or pressured), we bring it into play to encourage curiosity and connection.

Why are breathing games important?

Breathing games are a great way of supporting emotional regulation, especially among children. They:

  • help to regulate the nervous system
  • encourage self-awareness
  • help to develop self-regulating skills
  • support emotional safety, by removing pressure and finding fun
  • encourage co-regulation where adults can model calm and connection

What are the benefits:

  • Creates a feeling of calm, moving the body out of “flight or flight” mode.
  • Accessible anywhere – we can use these games in almost any environment and they require no equipment.
  • Builds self-esteem and control by giving children a concrete tool to manage big feelings.
  • Encourages conscious reflection of body signals like heart rate and muscle tension.

Top tips for breathing games!

  • Keep the instructions obvious and clear – “breath deeply” doesn’t work for many children!
  • Keep it short and playful – 30 seconds to two minutes for younger children
  • Use all the senses – this might mean using pictures, objects, music, story-telling or movement
  • Make it a routine – breathing can become a familiar tool, not just an emergency skill

How to use breathing games.

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Self-regulation spotlight – Deep Pressure!

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At SensationALL, we use a wide variety of sensory-informed strategies during our sessions and interactions with people with neurodivergent conditions and additional support needs.

In this article, Clinical Lead, Rebekah, explains why these approached are important, and how they can benefit you or your loved one.

Deep Pressure

What is it?

Deep pressure stimulation (DPS) means applying consistent, gentle weight or compression to the body.

This can be through weighted blankets, firm hugs (with consent), compression garments, or activities like pushing/pulling heavy objects.

How does it work?

Deep pressure activates the body’s proprioceptive system and sends signals to the brain that help reduce anxiety, increase focus, and create a feeling of safety. This can be particularly beneficial for individuals who may experience sensory overload or dysregulation!

Here are a few suggestions for activities based on age groups that incorporate deep pressure!

Young children (ages 2-6)

  • Compression hugs or “body sandwich” with cushions
  • “Steamroller” game (child lies under a blanket/mat or cushion and is gently rolled
  • over with pressure)
  • Rolling in a blanket (like a burrito)
  • Animal walks: bear crawl, crab walk — heavy work through limbs
  • Tug-of-war or pulling toys

Children (ages 7-12)

  • Weighted lap pads during seated tasks (school, homework)
  • Heavy work jobs: pushing laundry baskets, carrying books, stacking chairs
  • Deep pressure massage or brushing protocol (e.g., Wilbarger)
  • Yoga poses with joint compression (downward dog, child’s pose with hands
  • pressing into floor)
  • “Pillow pile crash”: jumping into a beanbag or soft pile
  • Fidget tools that provide resistive feedback (therapy putty, stress balls)
  • Introduce self-advocacy: “When I feel jittery, I can do __ to feel better.”

Teens (ages 13+)

  • Compression vests or snug athletic clothing
  • Weighted blankets or wraps during relaxation, sleep, or transitions
  • Wall push-ups, planks, or resistance band exercises
  • Therapeutic massage or self-massage tools (foam rollers, vibrating pads)
  • Carrying a loaded backpack briefly (not for long periods)
  • Using gym equipment for proprioceptive input: rowing machines, resistance training

If you find that deep pressure works for you, it might be worth considering how this can be part of your everyday routine. Here’s a few examples of how deep pressure can be applied to your daily routine:

  • Morning: Wall pushes, body squeezes, weighted breakfast chair pad
  • School: Lap pad, heavy backpack (briefly), resistance putty during listening
  • Afternoon: “Heavy work” chores or play, trampoline or crash pad time
  • Transitions: Compression vest, bear hug, or pillow sandwich before car rides or errands
  • Bedtime: Massage, weighted blanket, yoga or child’s pose

When using these strategies, it is important to follow a number of safety tips!

  • Always person-led: Deep pressure should never be forced; it must feel safe and comforting!
  • Time-limited: Weighted blankets or vests should be used for 20 minutes at a time.
  • Observe response: Signs of dysregulation (sweating, agitation, zoning out) means it’s too much input.
  • Use appropriate weight: Weighted items should be around -10% of the child’s body weight, or minus 1-2lbs, depending on modality. Always ensure you are adjusting the weight and communicating with the person – deep pressure can vary for everyone!
  • Pair with co-regulation: Use deep pressure WITH verbal reassurance and a soothing tone.

Deep pressure is a powerful, non-verbal language of safety. It tells the body: you are grounded, you are held, you are safe. When used respectfully, it becomes a ritual of care, a bridge between nervous system healing and daily life.

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Sensory Regulation and Play!

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So far this summer, we have had a lot of fun at a whole host of different activity groups!

Every session run by our wonderful practitioners guarantees opportunities for play. Although our service users see these sessions as a chance to get involved in fun activities, what they may not realise is that our practitioners have designed activities around sensory regulation strategies so they are learning while they are playing!

Regulating our senses looks different for everyone, whether they are neurodivergent or not. We all have different requirements and varying factors that may impact our sensory needs. For many neurodivergent children, their senses can become easily overwhelmed which can manifest in flight, fight or freeze responses, often making it difficult for them to engage in day to day activities.

We spoke to Rebekah Moorhouse, one of our lead practitioners, who shared two types of regulation strategies: alerting and calming. These cover a variety of different energy levels and cater to lots of different sensory requirements.

Examples of Alerting Strategies

These strategies come in handy when a person is feeling withdrawn or sleepy. Some of these examples might help to stimulate the senses and work as an energy boost:

  • Fidget tools (spiky or resistive textures)
  • High energy movements like bouncing, jumping and dancing!
  • Bright or natural lighting!
  • Engaging in preferred interests/special interests

Examples of Calming Strategies

When a person is feeling too overstimulated, they may need some grounding techniques to relax. A few examples are:

  • Quiet spaces / sensory tents or dens
  • Sensory bins (soft rice, sand, water play)
  • Journaling or drawing feelings
  • Slow, rhythmic rocking or swinging

At SensationALL, our sensory rooms provide the ultimate space for peacefulness, with the use of colourful projectors, ambient music and comfortable surroundings. These safe spaces can also be recreated at home with any items that bring you comfort and help you relax, like fuzzy blankets and cushions.

There you have it! It can be trial and error to find what works for your child, but the summer months provide a great opportunity to experiment with different techniques. If you find something that works, why not make it a regular part of your routine!

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Filling the gap in statutory services

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As a third sector organisation, SensationALL was founded to make a real difference to hundreds of families and individuals across the northeast living with neurodivergent conditions or additional needs who need practical support and access to social opportunities that are suited to their sensory and behavioural needs. However, this year more than ever we are struggling to keep up with the mounting costs of continuing services in light of the challenging funding climate.  

Amidst the cost-of-living crisis, we are facing both a rise in operational costs and a fall in funding. This is at a time when lengthy waits for NHS assessments are resulting in increasing numbers of families being referred to us for pre-diagnostic support, adding to the strain on our services.  

In the last year, we delivered over 600 sessions which provided more than 520 different people with specially designed social groups and activities to suit their sensory and behavioural needs. However, demand is increasing faster than funding, and we urgently need to generate more income to expand the existing timetable.

Currently, we have over 1400 registered individuals with more people contacting us every week as SensationALL’s Chief Executive, Katie McNutt, explains:  

“People seeking assessment for conditions like Autism and ADHD are facing lengthy waiting times to be seen by professionals and charities like us are filling the gap by offering practical support.

Over a third of families approaching us are being referred to us by professionals in the NHS, social work or education sectors, but there is no statutory funding available to us to cover the cost us intervening when they cannot.”

Our charity has been filling a gap in statutory services in the northeast for the last 13 years, stepping in to offer support when statutory organisations are unable to intervene due to no formal diagnosis being in place.

But even people with a diagnosis find there is a severe lack of social activities and support groups for neurodivergent people where they can make friends, build confidence and importantly, be themselves without judgement in places where their additional needs are accommodated.

Furthermore, parents and carers are in desperate need of practical advice so they can feel better equipped to support their loved-one to overcome challenges their conditions present in everyday life (from sleep to restricted diets to sensory processing issues and accessing education). 

In June, a shocking report was published by The Scottish Parliament; “Neurodevelopmental Pathways and Waiting Times in Scotland”, which outlines a concerning picture of neurodivergent care in Scotland: 

  • Over 42,000 children in Scotland are waiting for a neurodevelopmental assessment, and in some regions this figure has increased by over 500% since 2020. (Statistics as of March 2025) 
  • Increased awareness of neurodivergence in adults has also led to a surge in demand for adult assessments, and over 23,000 adults are waiting for a neurodevelopmental assessment in Scotland which has increased by over 2200% since 2020. 
  • The average longest waiting time to receive an assessment is 182 weeks (three and a half years).
  • Increased demand for support has led to increased pressure on the third sector, which provides a range of pre and post diagnostic support for neurodivergent people in Scotland. 

These statistics prompted a response from The Royal College of Psychiatrists in Scotland and the Child Heads of Psychology Services, who have created a proposal of a “new four-level neurodiversity pathway structure” which calls for a national approach to be taken to commissioning specialist third sector organisations providing support and services at all stages of the diagnostic journey”.

Specific examples of the support given by in the response include “establishing and maintaining peer support networks, and employability training” which mirrors much of what we are already doing without consistent funding.  

Katie explains how the charity would welcome this approach which would bring more much-needed sustainable funding:

“This year we are finding it harder than ever to secure grants from private organisations and as we have no consistent local authority funding, we are unable to grow the services to meet demand from new people approaching us. Sadly, this is a reality that many charities are facing. 

This year we must raise at least £520,000 to cover the operational costs of running at current levels but to tackle the urgent demand for more services will require a significant increase income.”  

A key part of our growth strategy is the ambitious and exciting redevelopment of The Old Schoolhouse, our headquarters in Westhill. We are eagerly awaiting the decision of a planning application to Aberdeenshire Council for the building extension, which will double the current footprint but will cost around £1 million in construction costs which we will have to fundraise for over the next couple of years.

The upgraded facility is desperately needed and will greatly enhance local services available to hundreds of families across the northeast – we are eager to engage with stakeholders who can support the project. 

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Therapy-based play

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One thing we know how to do at SensationALL is how to make our sessions fun!

Our creative team use a wide range of games to get youngsters moving their bodies and trying different sensory experiences. Play allows practitioners to implement clinical practices that are vital to improve self-regulation so youngsters are building skills without even realising it! 

We asked practitioners, Michael and Rebekah to tell us how they have been using the classic game ‘Marco Polo’ in their sessions recently…

Why we play Marco Polo  

Many neurodivergent people have difficulty with impulse control meaning they often respond to urges, thoughts or situations in extreme ways. We work with individuals to improve their self-awareness so they can feel in control whenever they are triggered by sensory stimulus or busy environments.

As Rebekah explains, “we play Marco Polo as it is perfect to strengthen the nervous system while building youngster’s tolerance of stressful situations“. The game’s format of start/stop actions supports inhibitory control (our ability to think before reacting) giving youngsters chance to practice managing their impulses. 

There is a ‘rush’ element at the start of the game when the players must race to find a hiding spot, so they need to move quickly and make a decision. Once in their hiding place, they must stop, stay still and be quiet, forcing them to fight the urge to move and make noise.  

How to play Marco Polo  

1. Choose a ‘catcher’ and blindfold them

2. Other players choose a hiding place

3. The ‘Catcher’ will call out ‘Marco’ and the players respond ‘Polo’ – the ‘Catcher’ follows the sound until they find each player.

During play, the game’s rules encourage them to focus their attention, behaviour, thoughts, and emotions by pausing and then using their reasoning to shout ‘polo’ at the right time. 

The game allows players to experience how the fight, flight and freeze responses feel in their body through positive, fun activities.

As the catcher gets closer to those hiding, they will experience heightened emotions before returning the nervous system to a state of calm. Going through this sequence of feelings repeatedly demonstrates that they are safe in their body and helps them learn to manage and respond appropriately and safely.

By introducing these experiences via a fun game, we reduce negative reactivity which may be dangerous or harmful. Over time youngsters will build their tolerance (slowly!) to stress.  

Plus, all games allow children to practice turn taking and social interaction – so there are lots of benefits!

  

There are lots of games that can be played at home with the same effect:

  • Hide & Seek
  • Stuck in the Mud
  • Floor is Lava
  • Simon Says
  • Freeze Tag
  • Musical Statues

Why not choose a game for you and your family to do at home – you could make it a regular feature in the week.

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Getting through the festive season

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Most people look forward to the festive period but if you are neurodivergent then it can exacerbate issues you already find tricky… changes in routine, activities and expectations.

Some of our ‘neuro-spicy’ staff and families have collaborated to pull together this list of tips and suggestions to help you tackle the Christmas and New Year period. We’ve even included some handy templates and resources!  

Own your own Christmas!

It’s ok to do your version of whatever you want, or need, to do!

Be by yourself, have no decorations, eat your usual favourite foods, stay in jammies, play with old familiar toys, watch the same old TV programmes, open presents (do they need wrapped?) when you feel like it… whatever helps you and your family to cope with these different festive experiences.

Reducing demands can help avoid overwhelm and meltdowns, so everyone can self-regulate.

Social demands can be high at this time of year, so try to be aware of your own social battery and be selective about what you commit too; even if this means missing a gathering or leaving early. Space out social events to make sure you and your family have time to recover and decompress. 

Sensory Solutions

Reducing sensory overload can be tricky at this time of year. Here are some ways to cope:

  1. Create a safe/quiet space with sensory supports and familiar comfy clothes/blankets or ear defenders if needed.
  2. Consider your environment. How can you reduce food smells, lighting or noise? Does changing the environment help; take time out in a quiet, safe space, go outside/for a drive.
  3. Use familiar sensory tools and resources. If you are going out remember to take your favourite sensory items with you. Being in busy or unfamiliar social settings could result in an increase in stimming behaviour and greater reliance on sensory tools.
  4. Communicate. Explain to people if you or your loved one is feeling overwhelmed. Why not encourage the whole family to use our energy battery to share how they are feeling – you can even turn it into a game! If the adults/non-neurodivergent people model some regulating activities (massage, deep breathing, bear hugs, active calming etc.) then it becomes the norm. Brief the whole family on what the triggers or signs of dysregulation are for you and tell them what your sensory solutions and strategies are. 
  5. Plan sensory breaks or active moments try to avoid sensory overwhelm by proactively taking time out to regulate and recharge.

Plan, Prepare & Prioritise

Preparing for all the changes to routine and expectations is so important! If you introduce visual supports such as calendar countdowns, social stories, schedules in advance then you/your neurodivergent loved-one will feel more in control. Having a set routine of activities can help many, others might prefer having a choice of what activities they do or what order they do them in. Use visual choice boards so they can choose and during activities, timers can be great to define the start and end.

There can be a lot of anxiety and/or excitement associated with Christmas, especially Christmas eve when sleeping may be even more difficult. Prioritise some relaxation exercises and wind-down time before bedtime to try ease the transition to sleep (remember, relaxation for some can be both low and high energy!).

Trying to juggle everyone’s needs and expectations at this time of year can be very stressful. It is almost impossible to achieve this. It can be particularly tricky having some children or adults in the household who can and want a more traditional Christmas, balancing that with those who find it more difficult and require their own version. Remember to use your usual strategies and techniques – if that means using separate rooms, each doing different activities at different times, using screen time, fidgets/sensory supports, limiting time at the table, eating under the table, particularly at unfamiliar environments or in a group situation, that is ok.

Maybe having a code word, gesture or symbol card to demonstrate a need for support between family members could work. Remember your own needs – take the time and space to calm your chaos: step outside into the cold air, take some deep breaths, listen to your favourite music! 

Use our resources!

Christmas expectations template

Fill this template in and share with others to help them understand your needs.

We know it can be hard to initiate conversations with family or friends about why you and your loved-ones do things differently at Christmas so hopefully this will make it a little easier.

By explaining your requirements you can set expectations which will help them understand and accommodate your needs so everyone has a good time!

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Socialising when you are neurodivergent

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The world isn’t set up for neurodivergent people.

Some may think that is an overly generalised statement but, the reality is that modern life is fast paced, highly stimulating and demanding, which is incredibly difficult for everyone but especially for those with additional support needs. Life today comes with a never-ending list of societal expectations, pass your exams, go to University, build a fulfilling career, have successful relationships, become a parent, contribute to your community (we could go on!😉). If you have a neurodivergent condition such as Autism or ADHD, then living up to these expectations can be an up-hill struggle.

The numerous unwritten rules of how to engage in social settings are a minefield for neurodivergent people and they can find building friendships or personal interactions particularly challenging!

For example, a neurodivergent person may struggle to interpret conversational cues so doesn’t understand or see the point of ‘small talk’. Or someone who finds reading body language tricky so is oblivious to another person trying to instigate a conversation and comes across as rude or abrupt when they give one-word answers (or walk away while the other person is mid-sentence!).

And nowadays these situations occur during online interactions too! The expectation that everyone will have a social media presence to document their every move and thought is an additional pressure. Communicating via the internet might be less intimidating than face-to-face interactions for many neurodivergent people but, they are still expected to do this within the ever-changing parameters of digital etiquette which can be difficult to monitor.

All of this leaves many neurodivergent people isolated and excluded because society is not flexible enough to accommodate anyone who processes information and situations differently. They are forced to work extra hard to process the world around them, often ‘masking’ their neurodiversity, by hiding their stimming behaviour or forcing themselves to maintain eye contact or sit still just to fit in. But that requires a massive amount of energy and many people reach ‘burnout’ as they become mentally, psychologically and emotionally exhausted.

What is the solution?

Well in an ideal world, society would change but sadly, it’s not that straight forward. Awareness of neurodiversity is increasing but, practical steps to accommodate neurodivergent people are slow at being implemented throughout society.

  • More social spaces!

There needs to be a greater understanding and acceptance of neurodivergent people who should be celebrated and included rather than being expected to adjust their behaviour to conform to restrictive societal expectations. There is a shortage of social activities where neurodivergent people can meet others and socialise without sensory overload and where neuro-inclusivity is the norm, not the expectation!

At SensationALL, our mission is to provide safe places for ALL ages to access play and social groups where everyone can be themselves and feel they belong with support from our specialist practitioners.

Our range of social groups, known as ‘SociALLise’, are designed around the preferences and needs of the attendees so they can have fun doing things they enjoy. There are SociALLise groups for primary school ages, teenagers and young adults and we now regularly hold five different sessions each week in Aberdeen and Westhill.

Most importantly, SociALLise is a community! Once you have a place, it is yours for life. Over the years, many youngsters have transitioned from the primary school aged groups right up to the young adult groups and along the way have made life-long friends.

“I love attending SensationALL! I can be myself. I don’t worry about what other people think of me there.”

a SociALLise attendee

  • Practical Support

We believe in empowering individuals by sharing our SensationALL tips and techniques which they can use in everyday life to feel more resilient in overwhelming situations. Sessions are a safe space to share experiences and open up about worries allowing them to understand more about themselves and build self-value and feel accepted. This support allows them to take ownership of their neurodivergent identity as they realise they are not alone.

Our team of practitioners have a wealth of experience in supporting individuals with complex needs and as some identify as neurodivergent themselves they can use first-hand experiences to relate to our attendees.

Supporting SociALLise sessions

Demand is growing exponentially for places in our SociALLise sessions and we have 90 youngsters waiting for places right now! New families are approaching us every week but we need to increase our income before we can create more of these invaluable groups.

Our aim is to have more SociALLise sessions taking place in locations across Aberdeen and Aberdeenshire so if you want to help SensationALL support more young neurodivergent people please get in touch! You could fundraise for us or get involved with one of our upcoming events, click below for details.

For anyone interested in using our services or attending a SociALLise session, the first step is to register with us.